The Conversations She Doesn’t Understand—Yet

 


Why do I have adult conversations with Ameya?

Why do I tell her how my day went, honestly, not filtered?

Why do I share when I felt bad because someone at work wasn’t kind to me?

And the bigger question, how would an 18-month-old even understand any of this?

Maybe she doesn’t. Not today.

But I believe children are always listening.
Not just to words, but to tone, to emotion, to how we carry ourselves after life nudges us the wrong way.

When I speak to her, I’m not trying to be understood in the moment.
I’m trying to build something deeper, an environment where honesty is normal, emotions are not hidden, and recovery is more important than reaction.

I want her to see that it’s okay to feel hurt, but also important to let go.
That not every bad moment deserves a permanent place in your mind.

One day, years from now, maybe she’ll come home from school and say something like, “Dad, my friend was rude to me today. It didn’t feel good, but it’s okay. It’s not important. You are.”

And in that moment, I’ll know, these little conversations, the ones that seemed one-sided,
were never really one-sided at all.

They were seeds.

Jay

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